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Picky Eaters: 10 Proven Tips to Get Your Toddler To Eat

Toddlers are notorious for being picky eaters. Though there are times when this may simply be because she is overtired or not hungry, it still can cause your child to be inconsolable. This can be very frustrating for parents, particularly the first time around.

Picky Eaters: 10 Tips To Get Your Toddler To Eat


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As is the case with many parenting challenges, managing toddlers that are picky eaters becomes easier after your first child. When it comes to picky eaters the second time around, you will still use the same parenting skill set to manage this problem.

We will talk about this topic in detail and outline the fundamental causes and solutions for picky eaters.

There will always toddlers who never make a sound, eat everything and are content as well as toddlers that will refuse to eat many foods and will seem impossible to satisfy.

Parents don’t always have the answer when it comes to picky eaters. We hope to offer some suggestions that will keep this problem to a minimum. Though infrequent, there can be times when the problem cannot be resolved. In this situation, it is important to consult with your pediatrician.

If you talk to enough parents who have been through toddlerhood, you will find that there are many ways to manage picky eaters. Part of the approach is to consider the food item, the other is to consider causes that are not simply because your child does not like the taste. This may include mechanics, color, and texture.


We always want to remember that toddlers are making a major transition from breast or bottle feeding to eating solid foods. This involves learning to eat using utensils. This can be very frustrating and is certainly not a reason to be upset with your child. Learning to eat with utensils is a learning curve.

Utensils require coordination and the development of fine motor skills. It should be no surprise that your child may simply resort to picking up food with her hands.

Being patient is extremely important. Learning to eat with utensils can cause your child to prefer one food over another. Always try to make your child’s food easy to eat with utensils so the transition to using a fork and spoon will not be too challenging.

Aside from taste, mechanics is just one factor that may contribute to a toddler’s food likes and dislikes.

Food Color

Yes, simply the color of food can be a factor when it comes to picky eaters. Whether it is the result of not liking a particular color or associating the color with another food your child does not like.

Try to always keep in mind the types of foods you are introducing into your child’s diet and mix up the colors. Remember that bright colors are particularly stimulating and will likely get more attention.

Food Texture

In the same way, think about food textures and try to make meals that have a variety of textures. When your child has a choice between applesauce and a piece of meat she may take the path of least resistance.

Food Spectrums – Pairing Foods

This concept also applies to select the most desired foods (sweets, salty) versus less desirable (bitter, sour) foods. Pair foods that are often eaten together but are at opposite spectrums. Sweet and sour or salty and bitter.Pairing can also be used to introduce less desirable foods into a toddler’s diet. This involves combining a food that your child likes with a bitter or sour food that is often pushed aside.

Bridging Foods

Once you have worked with color, texture, and taste, another tactic to add variety to your child’s new experience with solid foods, is to “bridge” foods. Bridging foods is the process of introducing a new food that is similar in color, texture and (when possible) taste. This may not be something you have thought of and it will take some time to plan out the foods that go together best. One example is squash and pumpkin.  

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10 Proven Tips to Get Your Toddler To Eat:


1- Consistency:

Consistency is very important to toddlers. Consistent bedtimes, bath times and mealtimes help your toddler know what to expect at dinner time every night.

Having the same routines and rituals at meal time will help the whole family be more peaceful and less stressed. Fewer feelings of overwhelm and stress can help reduce power struggles over food choices.

Let your toddler be involved in the mealtime preparation. Let them help set the table. Allow for a 5-minute warning and transitions from playtime to mealtime.


2- Make mealtime relaxed and fun:

When I was little I was a very picky eater. Super picky. Here is the thing, I really didn’t like many foods. Forcing them on me didn’t help at all.

I still remember mealtime battles and so many of those foods did not become something I enjoyed until early adulthood.

Dinner time was often stressful for me as a young child. That memory has stuck with me. I still won’t eat chicken salad or egg salad, but I’ll eat chicken cooked other ways and I love scrambled eggs.

I share that story so hopefully, you’ll work to make mealtimes relaxing and fun for yourself and your toddler.

Some ideas to make it more relaxing and fun:

  • Use small cookie cutters to cut up fruits and veggies into fun shapes
  • Have a picnic or cookout
  • Eat in the family room in your PJs while watching a movie
  • Praise immediately when your child tries a new food
  • Use non-food rewards like a sticker chart
  • Grow your own food or visit a farmer’s market
  • Some children may not eat a vegetable that is cooked but will consume it raw or vice versa. Try preparing it different ways to see if a certain method is preferable.
  • Offer fruits and vegetables with a dip or yogurt

Have patience, remain calm, don’t make a big deal out of it if they refuse to try a new food or don’t like certain foods. Just keep offering the foods in different forms, different recipes in a calm relaxing way.


3- Model good food choices:

Make healthy food choices for yourself. Your toddler learns about food choices by watching you. Eat fruits and vegetables for a snack, enjoy a salad with dinner.

Even if your child doesn’t like certain foods, watching you eat it, seeing it on the table without being forced or pressured to eat it, may be enough to get them to try it on their own.


4- Serve the least liked food first:

Introduce new foods or foods they don’t like first. You may need to introduce a new food several times before your child is even willing to try. Make sure you offer new foods first.

You can offer a small amount of new food and a portion of food they like if you find that gets them more likely to try the new food.

The biggest thing to remember is to not make a big deal if your child doesn’t try the new food. That will only encourage power struggles and tantrums. Reintroduce the food another time and don’t make a big deal out of it.


5- Make Food Bite Size:

Cutting up the food into small bites can make your toddler more likely to try new foods. Don’t overwhelm them with a large portion of a new food or a large portion of food they do not like. If they find they like it, you can always give them more.


6- Offer choices:

Toddlers want to feel like they are in control and independent. Pay close attention to the types of food your toddler will eat.

If your toddler prefers softer foods to crunchier foods, offer her choices of new foods with similar textures and tastes.

Your toddler is more likely to try new foods when they feel they have choices.


7- Focus on foods they like for the main meal:

The times our kids have been most willing to try new foods has been when the main meal was something they really love. Looking back to my own childhood, it was the same.

Food is such an important part of our lives and experiences, the more positive you can make it, the more likely your toddler will be to try new foods.

When I was small I loved cheese. I hated broccoli until the night my mother served broccoli with cheese sauce. From that night on I loved it. So try to combine foods they like with the new foods. That can help them form positive associations with the food.


8- Let them, help cook:

It is a great idea to get your toddlers involved in meal planning and cooking with you! Show them the weekly ads, let them help choose the meals for the week and shop for the ingredients.

Allow your toddler to cook with you. Let them add ingredients and mix things together. It is a great opportunity to have a small bowl of fruits or veggies and dip to snack on while you cook.

Let it be light and fun. I always turn on music in the kitchen and make sure my kids see cooking as a fun and positive experience.


9-Don’t threaten or punish your toddler for not eating

Threatening, spanking, or sending your child to bed without dinner isn’t going to solve their picky eating issues. It might help you feel better and vent off anger or frustration at the situation, but it does zero over the long term to help your child learn to enjoy all types of foods.

I was a picky eater until my early 20s. I know it frustrated my parents, but the punishment didn’t make me like the food. It made meal times stressful and not enjoyable for me at all.

Relax, take a deep breath and realize ultimately this is a phase. Your toddler will come to enjoy a wide variety of foods over time

10-Ask Your Toddler To Take Just One Bite

As with most “new” things in life, trying just one of almost anything is usually better tolerated. This applies to children as well as adults. More often, when something new is not forced, it is more likely to be accepted. Let your child be in control of whether she wants another bite.


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